My Boyfriend is HIV Positive +, What should I do?

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My boyfriend recently told me he was HIV positive…I’m informed enough about the risk when one partner is positive and the other negative, but the one thing bothering me is his mannerism have changed. He seems more distant than before and clearly avoid sexual contact. I feel though that even though I’ve accepted him for this, he is trying to push me away….

So, I need some help if you can share some insight if you’ve been in my position or the position of my boyfriend. Well, i hope to here from you and what words of wisdom you have for me.

For your information, he was my boyfriend before he told me that he is HIV+, but he was unaware of his status until just recently he contracted it from his ex who didn’t reveal to him he was positive after they had split, but my boyfriend did get regular testing done while they were together…

Also, its been 3months we’ve been together and its been a month since he found out he was positive and no he was completely unaware.

We haven’t been together very long and were always using protection. I would however been angry had he not told me and I had got infected…but not as angry as if he were not to tell me and just break it off not knowing whether it was something i was willing to tolerate.

Responses:
He has to deal with stuff on his own . Stop making it about you. Give him the space he needs and don’t pester.

He’is doing you a favor. The reality of the situation is that people who live together almost always transfer the disease. While you may not yet be at that point, he knows that he cannot continue to be intimate with you and not expect to give you AIDs. I commend him for his honesty.

It is sad, but not at all uncommon. Do not make his mistakes yours. Keep him as a friend, but find a new lover. First and foremost, you owe YOURSELF a good life.

This seems commendable — BUT you’re right, would be more angry over the time you were together that he DIDN’T tell you. For the time you didn’t know, he was possibly putting your life at risk!

And please, don’t assume you’re SAFE-yet. You will need to be tested several times over the next few months to be sure you arent also positive.

Good luck!